Happy New Day!

As we enter the New Year we’re suddenly bombarded with expectations. We are told to make resolutions, set intentions with perfect clarity, and plan goals to reach those intentions. We often feel we have to transform ourselves, change the world, be a better person, embark on a new adventure, be different, be inspired and the list goes on. I’m imagining I’m not alone when I sit and think of all these things as confusing, limiting and downright frustrating at times. What happened to facing each day as a new beginning, without limitations, leaving the past behind, beginning anew? Why is it that we set this one day each year to suddenly be clear on everything we want to accomplish or desire to change? By choosing one day a year to set into motion all that is and “should” be, I see why people give up on their intentions shortly after they begin and then feel as if they’ve failed. After two months of holiday after holiday filled with their own expectations, why is it that we now “have to” set into motion an entire year or lifetime on one, often party-filled, evening?

I’m reminded of two different verses that are very different but seem to fit the roll-over of another year on the calendar. The first is from one of my favorite writers, Shel Silverstein:     

“All the Woulda-Coulda-Shouldas,

Layin’ in the sun,

Talkin’ ’bout the things

They Woulda-Coulda-Shoulda done.

But all those Woulda-Coulda-Shouldas

All ran away and hid

From the one Little Did.”                            

Are we filled with what we “woulda-coulda-shoulda” done instead of inspired by what we are doing, continue to do, are ready to begin to do, and are open to doing? Continue to do it, and be open to the change that may come along as time progresses. Don’t worry about what you should do, could have done, or would do “if only…”, or what you believe others’ expect you to do.  Don’t limit yourself by setting intentions once a year and feeling as if you have to stick to them when it becomes clear that you would be happier or it would be in your best interest to be heading in a different direction. Awaken each day as if it were a new beginning with no limits, only endless possibilities.

 The second verse that comes to mind as we enter this New Year is by an unknown author and quoted often:

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

I believe I see this quote at least once a day by someone on my Facebook page. It’s not that I don’t like it or feel it’s a useful message to live by, but my goodness that’s a lot of pressure! I don’t know about you, but I’ve made mistakes, hopefully learn by and grown from them, and moved on.  Yes, it’s good to check our attitudes, think positively, and choose loving words and actions because they eventually mold us into who we are. I also feel we have to be real, admit that sometimes we aren’t able to smile, we can’t control the thousands of thoughts we have each day, we have perceived failures, wander off our own chosen path, hurt others unintentionally, and then gather ourselves back together, apologize if necessary and reinvent ourselves; perhaps on a random Tuesday and not New Year’s Eve.

I also happen to feel that failure is one of the greatest gifts for it helps strengthen and guide us on this journey we call life, and many amazing things have come from perceived failures. What if the homeless man with an addiction never reached that lowest of low places where he came to realize he was worthy and reached out for help? What about the many people who have recently lost their homes or filed bankruptcy and learned gratitude for all the little things such as love, family and friends, or perhaps just a smile, a good meal or a pair of socks? Choose to grow and learn from failed businesses, jobs, finances, relationships, diets, intentions or resolutions! We could all benefit from attempting to control some of our thoughts, words, actions, habits and character but also be gentle with ourselves at perceived failures, go with the thought we have at this moment, or choose to make an adjustment. Also choose to disregard the Woulda-Coulda-Shouldas that we put on ourselves or others place on us. Just DO and BE, and make choices every day to make this day the best it can be at this time. If today doesn’t go as you woke up hoping or believing it would, ask what you learned, be gentle with yourself; allow that perceived failure, and wake up tomorrow still believing in yourself and others. Whether you read this on a Tuesday, Friday or any other day of the week, I wish you a happy New Day. Know on this day you have the chance to make a choice for a new beginning and a new opportunity.

Wishing you love and light,  Pam

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One Response

  1. You are so right, every day is a gift from the source; every day is a new day…that is what keeps us parents of disabled kids focused. Few understand, fewer embrace this wonderful, life-giving concept. Blessings and warm regards!!!

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